Trust develops trust. Acknowledging that you trust the person you love with your life, with your heart, your body, your talents, your fears, your children, your worldly good, invites him or her to become even more worthy of that trust. In a wonderful upward spiral, the compliment of trust encourages even more trustworthiness. To trust means that we start from the position of believing that our sweetheart is motivated by a deep concern for us, that he or she in spite of occasional missteps or mistakes, truly has our well-being in mind. When we trust, we believe that the other loves us dearly and intends to love us well and long. Trust imagines the best: trust expects the happiest possible outcome. Trust serves with joy in the expectation that trust will be returned.
Just as trust engenders trust, doubt, its opposite, creates more suspicion. The more you suspect, expect and imagine that your sweetheart doesn’t love you and doesn’t want to care for you properly, the more it will become impossible for him or her to scale the wall of your doubt to give the gift of love, the blessing of undying affection. But trust comes from more than your own state of mind. It developed in response to the actions, words, and ways of the person you are choosing to trust. Trust is delicate, easily damaged, it can be destroyed by a single sentence of spirit-crushing attack, on thoughtless night of betrayal, a passel of lies. In matters of trust, we are the guardians of one another’s psyches and we must take the creation of trust as a serious responsibility.
Therefore ask the best of yourself and your sweetheart after all you are worth it. Be trustworthy yourself and show integrity with your actions, intentions, and words so that you are able to create an atmosphere of trust that will last a lifetime. With all that being said, if you are in a relationship and you know that your sweetheart isn’t trustworthy then consider getting counseling or ending the relationship. Remember if you can’t trust your sweetheart you would be able to experience true love. Don’t let an untrustworthy person rob you of that.
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