Stay in love and be a person of your word will build a fortress of trust in your relationship, and that trust will allow you to truly savor the words of love and praise that are the hallmark of abiding love. So, aside from exceptions that are unavoidable: you promised to go to his collage reunion, and you came down with the flu the night before: you’d said you’d meet him at seven, but the car had a flat. Make every effort to mean and do what you say.
Words and the way our actions do or don’t stand behind their meaning have an incredible capacity to wound us or to heal us. In a very real sense, words create reality. We all invest one another’s words with our own hopes, fears, and expectations. Therefore, to keep your love alive, be a person of your word. Being a person of your word creates faith in a relationship. It means not only that you will keep your promises, but in a more general sense, that you will say what you intend and then do what you say.
Nothing can erode a relationship as consistently or as deeply as too many words that mean nothing. For many of us, the biggest betrayal in our lives are delivered in the form of words that aren’t true: “He said he was working late, but all the time, he was having an affair,” Your father promised to take you to Hawaii, but he married your step mother and took her instead.” When they returned she told you that they had been in love with each other for many years but, your father had always said that they were just friends.
Since we’ve all been wounded by words, when we encounter unkempt promises, we can very quickly be shaken to the core. We’d like to believe that we can expect endless emotional resilience from our sweethearts, that it’s acceptable time and time again to not quite say what we mean or say something that turns out not to be true, but in reality, our hearts can only stand so many little white lies or unintentionally broken promises.
At some point we start taking note of the number of times our sweetheart doesn’t do what he or she says and without even noticing we begin not to listen, not to trust even the things they may still really mean. If you want to keep the flames of love burning then try to make every effort to mean and do what you say. Be a person of your word and you will abide in love.
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